It sounds like such a silly question to ask right...
'No' is actually one of the first words we learn in the first years of life. I mean as a child it's probably the word you used the most; 'no that's mine', 'no I don't want that', 'no I don't want you to do that' and so forth and so forth... But somehow with age many people forget how to use it, me included.
There was a point in my life when no actually wasn't in my vocabulary. Now wait a minute wait a minute, this isn't me saying I was living a wild'n out kind of lifestyle. Only that if any of my friends asked me a favour the answer would always be yes. You could say I had the 'people pleaser' gene. This led me to 'spreading myself too thin' and meant that with each task I completed it wasn't done to the best of my ability. -which always annoyed me, I hate things that aren't done properly *shivers*- As well as all that it meant that I was left worn out physically and you could even say emotionally. I ended up putting energy into more things than I could handle...
So how did I get over this... Not gonna lie I still have these tendencies but I'm more aware of it. At first I actually had to get trained because it really wasn't in my nature. Some friends would walk/talk me through certain situations. It's sounds super weird but you know, practice makes perfect right -loooool...
Anyhoo, a wii bit of waffling here but the main point is know what you can and cannot handle! If it's something you can't do don't be afraid to say no and definitely don't feel like you're dissapointing anyone. No one will hate you, -see what I did there with the no, no. Okay cool- so chill and only do what's in your depth.
Have a great May people!
LOVE- Peace & all things sugary ✌️
MbyM
There was a point in my life when no actually wasn't in my vocabulary. Now wait a minute wait a minute, this isn't me saying I was living a wild'n out kind of lifestyle. Only that if any of my friends asked me a favour the answer would always be yes. You could say I had the 'people pleaser' gene. This led me to 'spreading myself too thin' and meant that with each task I completed it wasn't done to the best of my ability. -which always annoyed me, I hate things that aren't done properly *shivers*- As well as all that it meant that I was left worn out physically and you could even say emotionally. I ended up putting energy into more things than I could handle...
So how did I get over this... Not gonna lie I still have these tendencies but I'm more aware of it. At first I actually had to get trained because it really wasn't in my nature. Some friends would walk/talk me through certain situations. It's sounds super weird but you know, practice makes perfect right -loooool...
Anyhoo, a wii bit of waffling here but the main point is know what you can and cannot handle! If it's something you can't do don't be afraid to say no and definitely don't feel like you're dissapointing anyone. No one will hate you, -see what I did there with the no, no. Okay cool- so chill and only do what's in your depth.
Have a great May people!
LOVE- Peace & all things sugary ✌️
MbyM
